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Suffice to say we
all want many things in life and any spouse we choose can offer only
some of them. If we can’t be content with what we have vowed to keep,
then we should at least realize that simply trading that person in for a
poacher idling somewhere in the wings is not likely to be the answer to
all our dreams.
True, poachers are
adventuresome, sexually attractive, and extremely self confident – but
they also prefer the short-term challenge of hit-and-run which explains
their preference for the married target. They have already justified
their behavior to themselves, yet understandably are mistrustful of
another’s loyalty.
Online dating has
opened cavernous doors to the poacher; male and female. While not all
profiles or first response emails contain out-and-out lies, like resumes
-- all of them stretch the truth. To the recipient fantasies run at a
fever pitch because imaging is based on mere words. Body language and
tonal implications are all in the mind of the reader, and they’re seeing
sexual hunger.
In an interview with
a male poacher who scores high on his ‘married targets’, he told me that
the intensity of this sexual dare is “better than eating cold olives at
3am” – (whatever that should chance to mean).
On the other hand,
the female poacher often comes from a broken home where the cause of her
parent’s arguments and ultimate breakup result in self-guilt. In
maturity, she needs to prove she is desirable enough to tempt a husband
away from his family. As the seducer she can somehow feel vindicated.
While this is not the only reason for female cheaters, it is a common
one.
They do it to feel
beautiful and wanted again. They do it for love. They do it for sex or
because they are lonely. Some do it to escape the monotony of marriage
and kids. And sadly, some do it for revenge! There is no trauma quite
like walking in on the cheating husband; particularly in your own
bedroom. Smart wives don’t run for a gun or knife, they get even.
With both partners
in career jobs today, there seems to be no time or energy for a quality
home life. Sex on the run is becoming the answer – even with all the
health risks. Thanks to the internet and chat rooms, heels and honeys
are having it easy; naughty notes are easier to hide from a spouse than
long lunches. Then of course, there is the old anthem, “it’s easier to
ask forgiveness than it is to ask permission”.
If you have ever
cheated on a spouse and when found out, claimed “It didn’t mean
anything…” you already know it won’t wash. In reality you’re saying
that you were ready to dump your marriage over someone that wasn’t worth
it. You wouldn’t buy that so why should s(he)?
And if you want to
hear about the ultimate “niche market”-- how about the Alibi Agency
which, for a fee will give you cover-up phone calls to conceal your
cheating activities. This Agency "will provide credible cover stories
for almost every adulterous moment for a fee of $25 to $75, depending on
the tailor-made fib."
Just about anything
can be an opportunity to make a buck today.
© 2006 Esther Smith
About
the Author: Smith has published numerous articles and writes a blog for
all artists:
http://the-self-taught-artist.com/blog.html
She also coaches new students on how to leave the time-for-money trap and set up
Leveraged Income for life.
http://thepermanentventure.com/dcc.htm If you can’t sing or ride a
bull, you better learn how to make your money work for more money.
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